Im probably a bit younger than you but my background sounds very similar, and this same question has been one of the biggest hurdles that my brain has used as an excuse for not starting a family yet. I dont have an answer and im not sure I ever will. One thought I have is that even though I have mostly checked out of the beliefs, I still practice because I feal as though it has positive effects in my life. If I was to have children, and I was to not raise them in the church, would I be setting them up with a disadvantage to not experience these same positive effects? On the flip side I feal as though my conscience stresses me out more than it should and thats a direct result of my strict religious upbringing, and I wouldn't want my children to deal with that. Maybe the answer is just balance. Anyway, I appreciate the reminder that other people out there struggle with the exact same thing, so thanks for posting.
Im probably a bit younger than you but my background sounds very similar, and this same question has been one of the biggest hurdles that my brain has used as an excuse for not starting a family yet. I dont have an answer and im not sure I ever will. One thought I have is that even though I have mostly checked out of the beliefs, I still practice because I feal as though it has positive effects in my life. If I was to have children, and I was to not raise them in the church, would I be setting them up with a disadvantage to not experience these same positive effects? On the flip side I feal as though my conscience stresses me out more than it should and thats a direct result of my strict religious upbringing, and I wouldn't want my children to deal with that. Maybe the answer is just balance. Anyway, I appreciate the reminder that other people out there struggle with the exact same thing, so thanks for posting.